Oh my gosh, I cannot say enough good things about this book and I fully encourage you to also check out The Dirty Normal, Dr. Nagoski’s blog about the science of sex. Oh! And if you’re thinking you’ve heard both her name and “dual control model” here on OJST before, that’s because she and R. Stevens did a guest comic on exactly that subject a couple years ago!
I am really fascinated by the concept of responsive desire, and it kills me that I didn’t have space to elaborate more fully on it in this comic. So please go read about it straight from the source on her blog! “do you know when you want it?” and “I drew this graph about sexual desire… and I think it might change your life.” and “An awesome question: How do I initiate sex when my partner doesn’t have spontaneous desire?” and really just scroll through her “responsive desire” tag.